| I'm going to tell you an important fact about winning | | | | fired from your job? Or does she just want to stop |
| child custody, because not a lot of people believe it: | | | | you seeing your kids? If you try to understand what |
| Fathers win custody of their kids every day of the | | | | she wants, you're already better prepared than 90% |
| week. | | | | of fathers who go into a courtroom and think that |
| There's some dad out there right now who's just | | | | by telling the truth they'll win custody of their children. |
| been informed of just that outcome, maybe in your | | | | As part of this defense, you need to start gathering |
| state, maybe in your home town... and you can be | | | | evidence that backs up your claims. I've said it once |
| one of them. I've written this article to answer the | | | | and I'll say it again: Fathers win custody of their kids |
| direct question of "can a father win custody of his | | | | not by telling the truth, but by being prepared to |
| children if he is fighting a restraining order?", and to | | | | back up the truth with evidence. |
| offer a bit of light at the end of the tunnel with | | | | I'll give you a personal example of the sort of thing |
| practical suggestions about how this can be achieved. | | | | that I mean. When I was fighting a restraining order |
| Too many fathers think that the legal case is | | | | based on false abuse allegations by my ex-wife, she |
| hopeless before they even begin to mount a | | | | claimed I'd violated the restraining order by hassling |
| defense; your kids only grow up once, and they are | | | | her about maintenance payments on a date a few |
| relying on you making the right moves so you can | | | | weeks earlier. But I'd prepared evidence to blow |
| see them do that. | | | | away her claims - I had a store receipt saved from |
| The first thing you need to do is not panic. If your | | | | two towns over which allowed me to pinpoint where |
| ex has decided to play dirty tricks during a custody | | | | I'd been on the afternoon she was supposed to |
| battle, you don't need to lower yourself to her level | | | | have seen me, and store cameras submitted as |
| with underhand tactics OR roll over and take it. You | | | | evidence to the court proved her to have falsified |
| just need to be aware of your rights, and have | | | | the allegation. It was one of the biggest factors that |
| patience that you can win in the end. With the right | | | | influenced the judge's decision to throw out the |
| information, advice and planning, you can blow her | | | | petition for a permanent restraining order, which in |
| legal case right out of the water (in my case, without | | | | turn allowed me to win custody of my children. |
| a lawyer - because I'd had to fire him six months | | | | Fathers can influence the decision of the courts to |
| earlier for a mix of incompetence and the financial | | | | rescind a restraining order or win custody of their |
| ruin caused by my ex-wife). | | | | kids by doing the same thing. Save e-mail |
| The other thing you need to do is start planning your | | | | communications, letters, receipts, write down the |
| courtroom defense now. I'm not talking about | | | | names of witnesses to any incidents - compile data |
| tomorrow, next week, or at a lawyer's meeting (if | | | | on anything and everything that you think might |
| you choose to hire one). Right now. Go and get | | | | influence the outcome of the custody case. |
| some paper, grab a pen and start writing down all | | | | If you follow the tips I've outlined above, there is no |
| the possible angles from which your ex might be | | | | reason why you can't be one of the fathers |
| moving with her divorce or custody tactics - is her | | | | celebrating the win of child custody this month - |
| aim to increase maintenance payments? Will she | | | | good luck! |
| continue to allege phony abuse allegations until you're | | | | |