Can A Child Decide Which Parent He Wants To Live With In A Rhode Island Divorce Or Child Custody Case?

Is there a particular age when a child can decidemay include the judge denying your request for
which parent they want to reside with, in a RI childplacement, sole custody or relocation.
custody or Rhode Island Divorce case?The older a child is, the more weight / influence the
There is no set age when a child can decide to livejudge will give to the child's preferences regarding
with their mother or father in a Rhode Island Childcustody, placement, visitation and relocation out of
Custody Case. In fact, theoretically, the child is notstate. Younger children usually have a greater
allowed to make the decision. In reality, older childreninfluence on proving facts rather than making
have a very significant impact on child custodydecisions. The child may tell the investigator or Judge
determinations by a Rhode Island Family Court Judge.that their parent abuses them or if they are afraid of
In making a child custody determination, the Courttheir parent. The child may tell the investigator that
makes a decision based on the "best interest of thethe parent makes negative or disparaging comments
child".about a parent in front of the child. The child may
Please contact Rhode Island Divorce Law and Childmake allegations regarding parental alienatation.
Custody Law Lawyer David Slepkow (401-437-1100)Children typically do not get to make the decision
if you are seeking a Rhode Island Attorney / Lawyer.concerning legal custody. Legal custody pertains to
The preference of the child is only one of thewho gets to make decisions concerning religion,
factors that a Rhode Island Family Court Judge mayeducation, social development, activities and medical
consider in determining the best interest of the child.decisions. Legal Custody will either be Sole Custody
Please see below for all factors that the Rhodeto one parent or Joint Custody to both parents. Sole
Island Family Court utilizes to determine ChildLegal Custody means that a parent can make all
Custody.important and major decisions concerning a child's
If an older child such as a 15, 16 or 17 year old has ahealth, welfare and upbringing without consulting with
preference and that opinion is expressed to thethe other parent. Joint Legal Custody means both
Judge, Court Investigator or Guardian ad Litem thanparents should be involved in major / important
the judge will usually respect the child's desire.decisions concerning a child's upbringing, education,
There are some exceptions to an older child'smedical and religious welfare. However,The factual
decision being decisive. In some cases, despite theassertions and opinions of the children may play a
child's age, the child does not know what is in hisrole in the Rhode Island Family Court's decision
best interest. If the child does not have a goodconcerning legal custody.
reason for his decision then the judge can deny theChild Custody matters involving preference of the
child's request. If the other parent is not a fit andchild may play a role in Rhode Island Divorce,
proper person to have placement of the child thenPaternity, Miscellaneous Petitions for Custody, DCYF,
the Judge can deny the request. The Judge can denyMotions to modify Custody or placement and
a child's request if the parent the child would like tovisitation disputes. Children have no real influence on
reside with has a drug or alcohol problem or a criminalChild Support cases.
record. In some cases, RI Family Court Judges areThe Child Custody Factors in Rhode Island:
hesitant to change placement if the child has"This [C]ourt has held that child-custody awards must
behavioral issues and the child is merely rebellingbe made in the 'best interest[s]' of the child." quoting
against the imposition of rules and structure.Petition of Loudin "[T]he best interests of the child
Children also may be given influence in Child Visitationstandard remains amorphous and its implementation
cases in RI. Children may play a role in thehas been left to the sound discretion of the trial
determination of whether visitation should bejustices." Id. Several factors must be taken into
overnight. Children often play a role in whetherconsideration by the Judge in making a best interest
visitation should be supervised or unsupervised andof the child determination. However, no single factor
the length of duration of visitation. Children also mayis determinative; rather "[t]he trial justice must
be given influence when the parent with physicalconsider a combination of and an interaction among all
custody files a motion to relocate out of state.the relevant factors that affect the child's best
Practical Tip: If you are aware that your childreninterests." Among the factors the court must
support your position regarding Visitation, Custody,consider are the following:
Placement or Relocation out of state then have your1. The wishes of the child's parent or parents
children interviewed by the Judge, RI Family Servicesregarding the child's custody.
or a Guardian ad Litem.2. The reasonable preference of the child, if the court
Children ages 11, 12, 13 & 14 may also givendeems the child to be of sufficient intelligence,
significant influence over  Rhode Island Childunderstanding, and experience to express a
Custody, Visitation and Relocation cases.preference.
Judges in Rhode Island have different philosophies on3. The interaction and interrelationship of the child
how they deal with children. Some judges will notwith the child's parent or parents, the child's siblings,
interview children. They will have the  Family Courtand any other person who may significantly affect
investigators from Rhode Island Family services orthe child's best interest.
the Guardian ad Litem interview the children. The4. The child's adjustment to the child's home, school,
Court Investigator or the Guardian ad Litem then willand community.
issue a report to the RI Family Court Judge or5. The mental and physical health of all individuals
Magistrate handling the matter.involved.
There are some judges who will bring the child into6. The stability of the child's home environment.
chambers for an interview. The Judge will usually7. The moral fitness of the child's parents.
bring the court reporter to transcribe the8. The willingness and ability of each parent to
proceedings. Some judges will allow the attorneys tofacilitate a close and continuous parent-child
question the child in chambers in front of the judge.relationship between the child and the other parent."
Practical Tip: Don't coach your children. This is unfairPettinato v. Pettinato, 582 A.2d 909, 913-14 (R.I.
to the child and puts unnecessary stress and1990).
pressure on the child. Also, the Child will usually tell theIn many contested child custody cases, Professionals
Judge or Family services about the coaching. If thesuch as Social workers, Therapists, Psychologists, and
Judge believes that you have engaged in coachingthe Guardian ad litem for the children may play a
then there may be severe sanctions. The Sanctionsmajor role.