| Ever imagine finding ways to leave your spouse even | | | | And, likewise, if your spouse is unrepentant, why |
| when you really don't want to? You may have | | | | should you stay in a miserable state? Plus, better still, |
| fleeting moments of thinking that leaving could | | | | perhaps you will leave your spouse temporarily in an |
| change your whole life. Some people have actually | | | | effort to wake him or her up to the seriousness of |
| done that. The great majority never make a move | | | | your situation. Since you don't really have a desire to |
| to help with making their improved life a real | | | | leave permanently, your temporary separation may |
| possibility. Many lack the will to look into, learn, and, | | | | cause your spouse to genuinely change. If your |
| after that, take action, and therefore are still just | | | | spouse does change, if you can really forgive him or |
| dreaming. | | | | her, and if you still want to be with your mate, then |
| Wait a moment and let's reflect a little. Let's explore | | | | maybe things can turn around. A truly restored |
| that a bit. For you to consider leaving, here are three | | | | marriage can be a beautiful thing. |
| reasons why you should leave your spouse even | | | | Third and lastly, you'll understand that repeated |
| when you don't think you want to. | | | | offenses are indications that your partner has no real |
| First off, in its favor, let me point out that protection | | | | desire to rectify the problems in your marriage. And, |
| is important for every individual. When should you | | | | those repeated offense will result in your becoming |
| leave? one of the times to leave is for your own | | | | fed up with the whole situation. |
| protection. If there is no violence in your marriage, | | | | If the repeated offenses are about things like lack of |
| then, of course, this does not apply to you; | | | | communication, differences of opinion, and so forth, |
| however, if violence is present, be aware that leaving | | | | you probably need to continue to work things out. In |
| for your own protection is a legitimate thing to do. | | | | addition, you need to consider; however, if the |
| Sure, I do know your objection that you can stay | | | | repeated offenses put you in an unsafe situation, |
| and handle things. Yet, you have been doing that. | | | | you certainly should leave. If the repeated offenses |
| Have things really gotten better? If you are moving | | | | are related to adultery, you certainly have the right |
| into the category of being a "battered wife, (or | | | | (though not the obligation) to leave and divorce your |
| beaten husband)" you likely are not thinking clearly | | | | husband or wife. |
| about this subject. | | | | When you have had an opportunity to study the |
| Now, there may be times when things really are | | | | reasons, and consider them, you'll notice that a |
| getting better. Then you might stay--as long as you | | | | decent case can be made in favor of coming to the |
| really are safe. That which you say holds true, I | | | | point of saying to yourself, "I'm willing to leave my |
| agree, but still you have the right to remove yourself | | | | spouse even when I don't want to." |
| and your children from a violent husband or wife. | | | | Just think about it. What if you actually could get out |
| We are not talking about divorcing your spouse at | | | | of your physically abusive situation? What if you |
| this point, we are talking about getting yourself to a | | | | actually could get your adulterous spouse to either |
| place of safety while any other issues in the marriage | | | | truly become faithful, or if you could leave and be |
| are being worked out. | | | | out of the frustrating situation you are in now? |
| Secondly, you truly should consider that | | | | Would that improve your life? |
| unfaithfulness is another legitimate reason to leave, | | | | So, if you have wondered, "Could I leave my spouse |
| and it is even a real reason you could consider | | | | even when I don't want to?" The answer is yes. It is |
| divorce. So, if you are wondering, "When should I | | | | not always necessary to do so, but, yes, you can |
| leave my spouse?" this is certainly a case where you | | | | and sometimes should leave your marriage |
| could consider doing so. | | | | partner--either temporarily or permanently. |