| You know from the core of your being that living in | | | | 5) You think it is your "Job" to keep the family |
| an abusive relationship is not good...not | | | | together till "death due us part." |
| healthy...outright destructive. But you struggle with | | | | 6) Your family, and his/her family, wants you to keep |
| leaving. And those that know of your circumstances | | | | the elephant under the carpet at all cost. |
| remain perplexed as to why you just don't go. | | | | 7) In your mind, you are not a "battered woman" or |
| I understand and so do the millions of others who | | | | an "abused man"...the title is beyond your wildest |
| have walked in your shoes. The following 8 reasons | | | | dreams about yourself. |
| why people remain in abusive relationships might give | | | | 8) YET you know from the core of your being that |
| you some compassion toward yourself and some | | | | the moment you leave the danger you currently |
| clarity with respect to your predicament. | | | | know will escalate, significantly. |
| 1) You hope, wish and truly want your partner to | | | | Leaving an abusive relationship is not as easy as one |
| change. | | | | my think as an outsider looking in. So allow all of your |
| 2) You consciously, and unconsciously, have | | | | misgivings about doing so come to the surface and |
| shouldered fault for his/her battering behavior. | | | | sort them out one by one. |
| 3) You have limited resources and question your | | | | You are not alone. Your exit is not simple. But in the |
| ability to carry-on on your own. | | | | long run once out of an abusive relationship, you will |
| 4) There are children involved and you know it will be | | | | breath a sigh of relief and glow from the core of |
| harder being his/her ex (the enemy) than it is being | | | | your being. |
| his/her partner and alleged "friend." | | | | |