| When we think of abuse in marriage, everyone | | | | abusive relationship. Rather it is a call to action to get |
| assumes that it is the husband who is abusing the | | | | you to remove yourself, and keep yourself away |
| wife. This assumption happens whether the abuse is | | | | from an abusive relationship. You simply must get out |
| emotional or physical. | | | | of it, you must find someone to help you muster the |
| Yes, "Abused Men" are more common than you | | | | courage to do it. |
| might think: there are many marriages where the | | | | You need to put shame aside; people do much |
| wife abuses and demeans her husband. In much the | | | | worse things everyday than to allow themselves to |
| same way that women suffer abuse at the hands of | | | | be abused. You've really done nothing wrong and you |
| men and they keep going back to him because their | | | | should acknowledge the courage you are calling on to |
| self-esteem is destroyed, so it is that men stay in | | | | do something about your situation. It is unfortunate |
| abusive relationships. | | | | that in many communities you will not find |
| In our articles we've been talking about men being at | | | | organizations to help you. However, there is a |
| a disadvantage in divorce court. This is an even | | | | National Domestic Violence Hot line that you can |
| bigger problem if the wife has been abusive. The | | | | Google up and get in touch with people who can help |
| man is both shamed and emasculated. He will have | | | | you find resources. Don't put this off. |
| problems talking with a friend, counselor, attorney or | | | | Some men feel further trapped because they believe |
| anyone else in a position to help him. Women have | | | | they will lose everything in a divorce. While this does |
| difficulty with this too but it is an accepted norm that | | | | happen, it doesn't need to happen to you. There are |
| men are abusers and the wife bears no blame. But a | | | | divorce strategies for men that will help you avoid |
| man, he must be a wus to let a woman treat him | | | | "the men's divorce penalty." Sure it is real, but if you |
| that way and this can happen through even though | | | | learn to work the system instead of letting it work |
| the husband is bigger and stronger than the wife. | | | | against you then you can overcome it. Read books, |
| This article is not about the theory of why people | | | | talk to attorneys, do what you have to do but learn |
| (men and women) allow themselves to stay in an | | | | the system so you can leverage it in your favor. |