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When any parent is going through a divorce, it's always an incredibly difficult time for the family involved. It's made much harder for everyone, however, when an ex-wife makes a father the target of a phony abuse allegation during that process. And this is an increasingly-common divorce scenario. There are many reasons why a mother might decide to punish the father of her kids in this way, but the main one is that: whilst a father is trying to figure out how to fight a restraining order, it's likely that he'll make a mistake in the general custody court case. Or run out of funds trying to defend himself on two fronts. Or simply cave from the pressure of it all. This article has been written to...

If there's one message I was hoping to get across by creating this article, it's that fathers + rights + divorce does NOT equal a dead end! But that's exactly what one colleague tried to tell me last week. The topic of conversation we were discussing over lunch was "when not to fight a restraining order" in the middle of a divorce, and his argument was that "any ex-wife sly enough to file false abuse allegations against the parent of her kids is bound to win a custody case anyway". So fathers should just hire a lawyer to defend them on a minimal basis, and get the ordeal over and done with as quickly as possible, right..? Where my colleague went wrong, though, is that his opinion is all based in...

Have you ever noticed how it is that some people believe they own the right to make decisions that affect both of you? And when you learn a decision has been made without your input, and in some cases without your knowledge, you feel violated. It's common knowledge that abuse is about control. One party bulldozing through choices and decisions is simply another part of this control dynamic. Here are some key elements that you will want to recognize about controlling unilateral decision-making characteristic of abusive relationships. 1) Your partner genuinely believes that he/she possess the "right" to make decisions that affect both of you. 2) Your partner owns this right because it comes with the...

Relationships are sustained by the environment in which they survive. An abusive relationship is not only sustained by the environment in which it survives, it in turn sustains that environment for its own ends. This sustaining of the environment is what makes an abusive relationship almost a monster of its own - it has a tightly focused agenda that is geared towards fulfilling its own need to be unhealthy and destructive. If your relationship is full of despair, frustration, unhappiness and resentment, these characteristics may have been cultivated by the relationship itself but what makes an abusive relationship extremely unhealthy is that it feeds off of these same qualities and nothing else. The...

It is common for people in an emotionally abusive relationship to struggle with leaving it. Sometimes it appears that no matter how destructive the relationship is to the victim, he or she feels compelled to stay in it anyway. The victim may have had lowered self worth to start with. The treatment of the victim by the emotional abuser often serves to reduce the victim's feelings of capability, worth, and mental stability enough that leaving seems a frightening venture. The concept of loyalty also holds people in relationships - and while this can have a positive and cementing effect in a healthy relationship, in an emotionally abusive relationship it is often a misapplied concept. Here are 3 ways...

Here are 3 top tips for the fathers out there who are fighting a restraining order that's been made against them, causing a separation between them and their children. Phony restraining orders are not the end of the world, as long as you make the right moves. 1. Get informed about being served. It's helpful to know what to expect when the order is being served. There are guides which reveal the normal procedure - read them, know the process, and you'll have no surprises to deal with. That's one half of this battle won. 2. Comply with the rules. At all times! When you're fighting a restraining order, all it takes is 1 mistake to make a massive blow to your case. Fathers win custody, but they can't do...

What's wrong with her for "letting" him talk to her like that? This is the first thought of an outsider looking in on an abusive encounter of an abusive relationship. Dr. Phil was interviewing a couple obviously in an abusive relationship. He asked the woman how she felt about her husband saying that he was only staying in the marriage so he wouldn't have to give her child support. When asked how she felt about that, she replied, "I didn't know that." So again Dr. Phil asked, by saying now you do know, how do you feel about that? As he is asking the camera captures a blank look on the woman's face and audience shots of folks in shock. If words could speak their expression, I'd guess it to be: how...

Getting involved in a relationship is like gambling. Nobody knows how it will turn out, regardless how perfect you think you and your partner are for each other. At the start of a relationship, people tend not to be themselves. They try to be someone their partner loves, and they also tend to close their eyes on their partner's mistakes. As couples become comfortable with each other, their masks start to wear off. They start seeing the true self of their partner. Human characters are formed since childhood. It is a combination of parents' teaching, their own observations and adaptation of their surrounding lifestyle. Each individual has their own character as they all have different backgrounds and...

Many fathers take legal advice during a divorce case, especially during divorce cases where the other party decides to manipulate the justice system with sly legal maneuvers. A common (and often the first) question these dads ask their lawyers is: Can a father win custody of his children whilst fighting a restraining order? Well, this article has been written to give an outline of the legal process involved in fighting a restraining order, and to educate readers on fathers rights during divorce cases. First of all, the answer to the question posed above is a massive Yes! It is entirely possible for fathers to resolve how to win custody of their children whilst fighting a restraining order. I'm one...

Can 209A Restraining Orders be issued against out-of-state Defendants? There are two types of jurisdictional requirements that must be met in order for a court of law to have the authority to rule on matters: subject matter and personal jurisdiction. Subject matter simply means that a court has the authority to hear a particular kind of case. Personal, or in personam jurisdiction, means that a court has the authority to assert power over a specific person, usually the Defendant. In Massachusetts, Chapter 209A Section 1 grants subject matter jurisdiction to hear 209A Restraining Order cases to Superior, District, Probate and Family, and Boston Municipal Court departments. In cases where there is...

-- End Ad Box ---> The family is considered as the basic unit of the society. It is an inviolable social institution, which for all intents and purposes, is safeguarded by the state with all its pervasive powers and coercive mechanism. The family has in fact been so important in our present society, that marriage is actually a foundation of the family has been protected with much zeal by the state. When man and woman comes into a conglomeration with each other, it is assumed that they are already one, and not even the mere acquiescence of the parties, or the volition of one party could have such contract be eradicated. Yet notwithstanding the same, it is not a bolted lock that would last a lifetime...

You know from the core of your being that living in an abusive relationship is not good...not healthy...outright destructive. But you struggle with leaving. And those that know of your circumstances remain perplexed as to why you just don't go. I understand and so do the millions of others who have walked in your shoes. The following 8 reasons why people remain in abusive relationships might give you some compassion toward yourself and some clarity with respect to your predicament. 1) You hope, wish and truly want your partner to change. 2) You consciously, and unconsciously, have shouldered fault for his/her battering behavior. 3) You have limited resources and question your ability to carry-on on...

Anger and abuse often go together. There are many reasons for this and first of all we need to understand a little about anger and where it comes from. Anger in adults often begins when we face injustice. Outrage often follows and this can lead us to take appropriate action. Outrage is a positive thing when it helps us take steps to stop violence and other injustices. Outrage involves integrity and caring plus a sense of responsibility. This type of anger does not lead to abuse so in this instance anger and abuse do not go together. When anger comes from a sense of being wronged, abandoned, rejected or controlled it can easily and often does leadto abuse. In these situations we fear being...

Physical abuse is commonplace - the drunk husband beating his wife, the cop over-stepping his duties, the mother hurting her child. - The only good thing about physical abuse is that you have the chance to get away, to remove yourself from the situation - if you are not there, they cannot get you. Mental abuse is rife - the wife who constantly pecks away at her husband, the school teacher who picks on a student, the children in the playground teasing one child in particular. - The problem with mental abuse is that it stays with the victim and effects all areas of their life and their self-confidence - avoiding mental abuse is harder, and the effects linger. - Most abuse is self-inflicted - the...

"When you walk through that door, my time becomes your time." Sound familiar? The question I have is, "Is it good or is this bad?" That could go either way depending on how you experience yourself when you are with him...when you give to him...when he wants from you...when he gives to you. If you are in an abusive relationship, you may notice that you step out when your abusive spouse steps in. It may be that you believe you need to be "all about him" when he shows up, because being about you could come with punitive consequences. Being a Bad Person in the Presence of Your Abusive Spouse He may only be content with your catering to him. And moreover, he may have demonstrated that no matter how much...

North Carolina law makers have introduced the Unborn victims of violence bill for the past five sessions only to see it languish in committee. Modeled after the federal bill known as the Laci and Conner Peterson Act, House Bill 263 says that a person who commits the crime of murder or manslaughter of a pregnant woman is guilty of a separate offense for the resulting death of the unborn child. The bill's three other primary sponsors and its 46 co-signers as well as many other legislators have indicated their support. The bill simply makes sense. A national poll shows that when asked the question "If a criminal assaults a woman who carries an unborn child, does that crime have two victims or only one...

When ever people are involved in an abusive relationship, they have a tendency to blame the aggressor. However, both parties are responsible for their overall interaction. I know, it sounds weird but let me further explain myself. In order for a person to continuously mistreat or abuse another one, the victim must be permitting it. If you observe this situation closely when a person truly loves, respects and has total self confidence, they will not tolerate any kind of disrespect from others. They may deal with it once or twice but will move on if they see a pattern. Why do confident people move on?o They understand that true love helps you grow and prosper. Rather than, hold you back.o Real love...

"I am leaving this time, and I am not going back!" Are you in a relationship with an abusive partner? How many times have you thought or said that you were leaving? How many times have you actually left? Leaving an abusive partner is difficult and is a process that takes a lot of inner strength. Generally victims of physical and emotional abuse leave their partner and go back several times before the relationship is finished. Statistics show that an abuse victim leave his/her partner on average seven times, before leaving for good: This is the cycle of abuse. When the victim stands up for themselves and leaves the relationship, the abuser pulls a 180 and turns into the ideal partner. Telling you...

Living within the hell that is called an abusive relationship is sometimes unbearable. Most people that aren't involved in one have a lack of understanding of what it's like. It is very easy for people to say, why doesn't she leave for good? What is it that is holding her back to bear such humiliation? But they barely realize the barriers that stop these women to leave which could be financial, emotional and psychological. These women, who have been going through the abuses, need to be encouraged to muster up their courage to take the extreme step for their well being. However, once you have made up your mind to leave the liaison, do not hold back your intentions, for you do not deserve to be abused...

A controlling relationship can have a huge impact on your life. It can limit you in so many ways and you end up feeling stressed, unhappy, and depressed. It is important to emphasize this type of relationship comes into the category of an abusive relationship. This needs to be stated as there are many people who would not realize this. When you know this, it is vital to examine the primary components of an abusive relationship and see how this relates to a controlling relationship. Firstly, it means the controlling behavior is a way of dominating and holding power over the other person in the relationship. It is usually the man who acts in such a way as this way of being tends to flow on from a...

Divorce? Possibly losing your children from a restraining order? Harsh, isn't it? Here's my Restraining Order 911 review that may help you out. So, I came across this book, it's a digital one actually, that gives you advice on what you can do defend yourself if you are falsely accused and thus got a restraining order. Since it's digital, you'll be able to download it immediately after purchase. No waiting, nothing. And you can do it in the privacy of your own home so onlookers won't have a chance to ask questions should they get curious. The author of this guide went through the same. He was kept away from his 4 young kids when his marriage fell apart. The kids didn't know what was going on and were...

Most of the time, we go into a relationship thinking that a person who tells us that he or she loves us truly has our best interest at heart. However, after an experience where this is not the case, we may struggle with Many people are unsure or feel insecure about dating after they have left an emotionally abusive relationship. This is understandable, as trust has been fundamentally violated. being able to trust our own judgments or trust others. This safety instinct is not a bad thing. There are often reasons that someone gets involved in an abusive relationship, so it is reasonable that there might be a tendency to repeat the pattern unless some work is done to identify that person's part in the...

An emotionally and psychologically abusive relationship can leave you feeling inferior, incompetent, and even cause you to question your sanity. While it may seem almost impossible at times to leave it, the truth is, your perspective on yourself and your potential will change a great deal when you are removed from a source of continual disapproval and criticism. Here are 5 things you can look forward to experiencing away from the emotionally and psychologically abusive relationship: 1. Your will be able to focus on other aspects of your life. It is amazing how much time and energy goes into maintaining and dealing with an emotionally abusive relationship. Once your energy is turned away from...

Anyone who is coming out of and trying to recover from the experience of an emotionally and psychologically abusive relationship knows that it is very challenging. It can be very difficult to stay strong and follow through with a split, even though your intellect may tell you it is the right thing to do. Going back and leaving several times in a common occurrence. Fortunately, there are things you can do to increase your chances of success. Here is Part 1 containing 3 steps you can take to help you successfully recover from your emotionally and psychologically abusive relationship: 1. Address your diet. The mind and body are linked, and the health of one substantially impacts the health of the...

It takes courage and a lot of strength to walk away from anabusive relationship. It takes all you've got to face thechallenge of moving on. Life will never be the same. It's the beginning of a new battleground. Feel the relief of being free from another day of fear,anxiety, confusion and at times, helplessness. Theroad ahead is promising, remember this. It has to bebetter than what you left behind. Talk to someone Hopefully, you can find someone who can listen asyou unburden your pain and even confusion. Don'tbottle it up inside, this is one instance where youwill need a supportive relative or friend. Consider avisit with your family doctor. There are communitieswho are equipped with support groups...

It seems like a contradiction to say that an emotionally abusive relationship can be the result of acts of kindness on the part of the minister. But it happens. Especially when kindness is not asked for by the targeted person. It is also common for actions of kindness to have a negative effect on those who were not direct beneficiaries of the kindness. There is a famous example from the Life of Saint Francis of Assisi, the son of a wealthy middle-class merchant, who kissed a leper on the lips as an act of kindness. History does not give us the leper's reaction. But it is not far-fetched to imagine that the leper may not have appreciated such a symbolic gesture of Francis's identification with the...

Unfortunately, as divorce has become a cottage industry, the filing of a false restraining order has become a more & more common legal tactic. If you are on the receiving end of a false restraining order, you have a minefield of obstacles to maneuver in order to clear your name & get back the custody of your kids. Any 1 mistake can land you in jail. When fighting a false restraining order, make sure you are well informed so avoid you can avoid the traps. All it takes is one untrue accusation from your wife to get you slapped with a restraining order that will keep you out of your house & away from your kids. Sometimes an unscrupulous attorney will recommend this tactic to a woman for a...

Many people feel compelled to stay in relationships that are destructive or toxic for them. Perhaps having low self esteem to begin with, the destructive actions of the partner can serve to drive down feelings of self worth even further. Often, the victimized partner feels a sense of loyalty to the partner who may be emotionally or otherwise abusing him or her. While loyalty in healthy relationships can be a very positive and securing trait, when it is applied in the context of an emotionally abusive and destructive relationship, it becomes misplaced. Here are 3 reasons loyalty is mistakenly given in these types of relationships: 1. The victim confuses fear with loyalty. In healthy...

Sometimes it's not only men that have the subliminal hopes of playing a hero. Women, too, are compelled to make sacrificial decisions especially if the matter involved is saving a relationship. Even if it would mean, letting a man belittle her, even to the extent of demeaning her worth by often making her life miserable. Sadly enough, the torment is usually cut both ways for the women. When leave or not leave, become the cyclical words of objections constantly running through her head. As the sacrifice gets enormous the more a woman will have the illusion to make everything alright and never would consider leaving abusive relationship an appealing option. Many have asked for reasonable advice on...

One of the most heartrending situations you can ever be faced with is to have a loved one in a dangerous situation that you can't rescue them from. It can really come close to tearing you apart, to making you feel that you are literally losing your mind. This can come in the form of having military personnel in your friends and family circle that are far away in a dangerous war zone. It can come as having someone that you care about deeply being stricken with a serious, even terminal, illness that the doctors are at a loss as to what course of action to pursue. It can present itself in the form of someone in your life being struck with crippling depression that they can't seem to pull themselves out...

A non-governmental organization, Arewa Patriotic Vanguard has blamed the Nigerian politicians for the involvement of youth in electoral violence and the use of youths as political thugs. In Nigeria, the involvement of youths in various acts of violence have become a regular menace in the region as youths are frequently seen in the scene of political, electoral and religious violence which often leads to the death of thousands and leaving hundreds youths injured. Speaking with reporters in a workshop organized by Arewa Patriotic Vanguard, the Chairman, Alhaji Abdulrazak Gidado said unless Nigeria finds a way to prevent pre, during and post election violence and election rigging the country has not...

We feel sorry for the little apostrophe. It is so abused, so often made to do what it shouldn't, and so often forgotten when needed. The apostrophe is a proud punctuation mark with specific purposes and does not deserve to be misused. Again and again we see the same two abuses of this punctuation mark, not just in the pieces we edit but all around us in the "real" world. We'll discuss two of those abuses here, and we'll hope to restore some of the respect the apostrophe deserves. Abuse #1: Plurals To say it plainly: don't use apostrophes to make plurals. Sentences like Get your hamburger's here are simply wrong. The little apostrophe was not meant to make one hamburger into multiple hamburgers. Here...

When a customer, patient or client enters a workplace, he or she does not make decision to be violent or not based on the reading of a poster stating "violence will not be tolerated". Violence generally occurs on a continuum rather than crisis out of nowhere. Lineups, delays, negative news, service issues, fines, payment issues, etc create the potential for any person to become agitated. Customers will raise their voice, perhaps swear and often move into the personal space of the employee. In many workplaces, employees are instructed to set limits with the escalating customer and inform them that "I don't have to take it". Some employees will even go as far as pointing at the zero tolerance poster...

The workplace can be a dangerous place.  Many employees are walking "time-bombs," not that they have a bomb-but they could. Customers and former employees can also pose a threat. I'm not an alarmist, but I think it's wise to take proactive measures and reasonable precautions to avoid being a victim. The Extent of the Problem The extent of workplace violence may surprise you.  According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics 2008-2009 report on "Fatal Occupational Injuries" the Assaults and Violent Acts in 2009 included 521 homicides, 420 shootings, 48 stabbings, and 237 self-inflicted injuries. Deaths by homicide and other violence was the second leading cause of workplace fatalities, behind only...

Many of us have read the astonishing statistics concerning the effects of TV violence on our children. And we may stand in one of two camps: Television is just a reaction to society -- a projection of the way life is. Or television is influencing and encouraging the brutality in this world. Either way, it can't be sugar-coated. Violence has always played some role in our society whether it's between individuals demanding their will or on a larger scale -- governments using ruthless force. So in a historical sense, it's important to understand the impact of violence and what we've learned. These historical lessons have their place and their context, but what I'm speaking of is more the glamorizing of...

Violence in the workplace is quickly becoming the buzz word of the time. Most governments are now considering legislation that will force companies to deal with these issues in order to improve workplace safety. Take Bill 168, in the province of Ontario Canada, that is about to take effect on June 15, 2010. The Bill, under the Health and Safety Act, requires an employer to assess the risk of workplace violence that may arise from the nature of the workplace, and the type of work or the conditions of work. The assessment must take into account common risks at other similar workplaces and risks specific to the employer's workspace. A copy of the risk assessment and its results must be provided to the...

Today's teens and children are not only victims within their own home where you find the typical dysfunctional family, but that of society as well. Discipline in the home is rare these days, and that is when they turn to their friends for support. They go to their peers for guidance and what they find are their lives changing for the worse. Peer pressure to fight, to steal, to take drugs is a never-ending battle and it comes with a steep price. Juvenile detention, or if tried as an adult, it means jail time and viola, childhood is nothing but a distant memory. Watch television and what do you find? The answer is violence, guns, drugs, and death. This is all negative exposure and while it sells...

Every school has its share of bullies. For the most part, childhood bullying continues into adulthood as more serious felonies or criminal convictions. That is why bullying should not be ignored in school. It is equally important to incorporate into the school curriculum, programmes on social skills and conflict resolution for students, teachers, and even parents. Children that engage in bullying tactics are developing antisocial behaviour that show their lack of ability to handle their own violent and aggressive behaviour. These programmes will have an enormous impact on their school, studying skills, and ultimately in their adult life. It should be noted that the programmes used in schools should...

The 2008 article From the Editor-in-Chief's Desk: The "Workplace-During-Recession" Reminding Us of Employee Rights and Responsibilities, published by Margaret H. Vickers in the Employee Responsibilities and Rights Journal states that "many workplaces take on a subtle but definite shift in identity when the R-word (recession) is on the horizon. However, the outcome of this identity additive is less than subtle. For workers who are marginalized for any reason... it's a time to be nervous." Workers at the margins, those most likely to be affected by recession, are also the most likely to "snap" a work. There are three primary pressures that may increase anxiety for workers during a recession: - Job...

What does self pity have to do with abuse? Well many of you may not see the direct connection unless you've been subject to a partner who has found themselves in it from time to time. Self pity is usually resorted to when an individual feels victimized by someone or some situation. They choose to fall into this state as a way of trying to comfort themselves, hide away from the world, heal, and/or ask someone else to rescue them from their misery. Often the individual will also feel and appear depressed, unmotivated, de-energized, and afraid of taking on their normal responsibilities, to be avoiding others, vulnerable and weakened by the traumatic incident. Often this state can become entrenched as a...

Painkiller abuse continues to rise in adults as well as in teens. For adults, it usually starts with an injury. They are given a prescription for their pain. After the pain is or should be gone, the patient feels like they cannot possibly function without more pain pills and the abuse begins. Teens can get it from the medicine cabinet at home or a relative's house. They can also get it from school. Many teens sell and/or trade prescription drugs at school that they get from home. In either case, this epidemic is on the rise because prescription pain killers are very easy to get. Using these prescription drugs alters brain function. Drug abusers experience a rush of pleasurable feelings but these...

How is a substance abuse evaluation done? If you have ever wondered whether or not there is a method to this sort of test, the following article will shed a lot of light on the subject. Essentially, counselors and doctors know whether or not a person has been abusing a particular matter from the start. Still, in order to recommend someone for clinical treatment, professionals must be able to determine whether or not a person is truly addicted. So, how is a substance abuse evaluation done? Most professionals use the same method in order to find out. The type of test given to a person that is suspected of addictive behavior is called a "CAGE" test, and this type of test is a lot trickier than you may...

Robo tripping is one of the street names for cough medicine abuse, a growing form of drug abuse. Sometimes referred to as "robo-tripping", cough medicine abuse has increased dramatically in recent years. Whether in syrup form or tablet form, teenagers and children often consume huge and potentially lethal doses of cough medicine in their quest to get high from Dextromethorphan, which is an active ingredient capable of offering relief from coughs. According to a recent study by the National Institute of Drug Abuse involving over 48,000 students, out of the ten most common drugs being abused by those in 12th grade, at least seven are either available over the counter or else they are prescribed...

News headlines report of senior citizen abuse, most everyday. Long gone are the values and moralities of our grandparent's generation. Time was when a handshake, or your word was all that was necessary to honor commitments. Gone are the days on an unlocked house, open windows, or sitting out back alone. The elderly in today's society can, unfortunately, encounter many traumatic events for no cause of their own. Predators watch and learn learn an old person's schedule, like, when they leave their homes and when they are likely to return, what times they get up or go to bed, and if they are handicapped or ill by the comings and goings of a visiting nurse. Many in the society of today appear to have...

JWH-018 is an analgesic chemical, often described as a pain-killer from the naphthoylindole family, which acts on the cannabinoid receptors in the brain. In animals, it produces effects very similar to those of tetrahydrocannabinol (THC), the psychoactive chemical in marijuana. The substance is commonly known as 'Spice', 'K2 drug' and 'Synthetic Marijuana'. Now-a-days it is emerging as a popular drug of choice for teens even as it poisons them. Medical director of Rocky Mountain Poison Center and director of Surveillance for the American Association of Poison Control Centers said that these products weren't designed for human consumption. He also termed it as a designer drug similar to Marijuana. It...

The signs of drug abuse are too often obvious only after we find that there is a drug problem of long duration. Once the problem has been percolating under the surface for a while, fixing it is much more difficult. So it is useful to know and recognize indications of drug use. 1. The first sign to watch for, and I mean that literally, would be changes in general attitude. For many reasons, this is probably the most important indication of drug use. It is important because it will be the first tip-off you will see. Unfortunately, it is likely to be missed because there are so many possible reasons for altered behavior. The idea that young people just naturally have nasty attitudes toward their elders...

Domestic assault cases represent one of the most difficult and challenging areas of the law. Such cases are complex from a legal standpoint. The other challenging area is that of the level of emotion involved with these situations. If you find yourself facing such charges or have been arrested you need to find skilled representation. A Domestic Assault Lawyer Minneapolis can provide you with such skill and experience. There are many Domestic Assault Lawyers in Minneapolis that have devoted much of their careers to dealing with domestic assault cases. Such an experienced Domestic Assault Lawyer Minneapolis can help you present a strong defence in court. It is always worth reminding people that they...

How should we define human growth hormone abuse? A dictionary definition of abuse might be "to use wrongly," or "make incorrect use of." For the ordinary person, drug abuse means using drugs for some form of personal gratification - the drugs are often illegal or at least illegally obtained, and the use to which they are put is something other than the standard use defined by the medical community. For human growth hormone (HGH), there are other implications beyond standard medical practice. What is human growth hormone abuse in the elderly or aging population? The hormone is given to seniors because it's thought that raising hormone levels will result in reversing the aging process by decades...

In nonjudicial foreclosure states, mortgage companies do not have to bring a lawsuit against homeowners in order to sell the house at a county auction. If the borrowers believe that the foreclosure is not warranted, they will have to bring a lawsuit themselves against the bank and prove that the house should not be sold. Obviously, this makes defending the lawsuit impossible, as the owners would have to bring the fight into court first and the bank would be on the defensive. But bringing a lawsuit against a lender to stop foreclosure can be a costly and confusing process for most homeowners. They will have to follow a number of steps just to have the sale initially halted, and then attempt to prove...