Many women who are in abusive relationships seems to stick to their abusive partners regardless of domestic violence. You and I wonder what makes it difficult for the women to just walk away and stay a violence-free lives. If you ask them, they will give you very practical emotional and social factors. Among myths surrounding domestic violence is that it only happens to poor women. This is not true because we have seen women from both wealthy and poor backgrounds experiencing domestic violence. I agree that income levels affect how the victims respond but they do not in any way affect whether you are abused or not. Low income earning women fear to report cases to the respective organizations in fear...

We always find reasons and excuses to show that domestic violence is an unavoidable circumstance but I beg to differ. A person who abuses another person lacks respect and does it on will. No amount of provocation should give the right to go ahead and inflict fear and shame on your partner. Sometimes it gets even worse when the abuse involves physical violence. A man is the author of his own destiny and he should take responsibility of any of his actions. The myths or misconception that men are provoked by the victims is an annoying alibi. I have a reason to believe that domestic violence is a choice. Have you ever wondered why men who are so good to the public, friends and relatives turn out to be...

You are not his/her words, though it doesn't feel that way when you are being abused. On a very deep level, you believe those words of disregard, disapproval, disrespect...even the ones that are absolutely foul. Yet, in a more surface way, you claim not to buy that trash. You know those are just his/her words. And you've heard that the verbal abuse showered upon you is not about you. So how can you bring all of you aboard to no longer feel the blow of verbal emotional abuse after your abusive relationship? Here are three keys to finding YOU underneath, behind and most definitely before the verbal emotional abuse. 1) Start with where you are now and find one thing about yourself that used to be a...

Men who kill their pregnant partners in cold blood are pure unadulterated evil in human form. There are no two ways about this. About 20 per cent of pregnant women who died during their pregnancy were murdered by an intimate partner. I had to read this a number of times to let it sink in, because it seems so unbelievable that there were that many men in relationships, who were capable of killing their partner and their unborn child. It is no longer an isolated or rarest of rare cases; it is endemic. According to the Washington Post about 1,300 pregnant women were killed by their partner during the 14 year period from 1990 - 2004, which means about 1300 men were able to turn around and snuff the life...

In Washington State, there is no crime of Domestic Violence. Rather, Domestic Violence is a tag that is put on other crimes indicating that there is a family or household relationship between the parties involved. Most jurisdictions will impose a No Contact Order that prohibits the defendant in a Domestic Violence ("DV") case from having contact with the alleged victim of the crime. The order will often prohibit contact with the victim's children, residence and place of work too. Family or household relationship According to RCW 10.99.020(3), family or household members is defined as: [S]pouses, former spouses, persons who have a child in common regardless of whether they have been married or...

Defending a California Penal Code 243(e): Spousal/Domestic Violence California Penal Code 243(e) is defined as a willful infliction of force or violence upon your intimate partner. This charge is also commonly called domestic violence, domestic abuse or spousal assault. This can include any form of physical violence such as pushing, hitting, shooting, etc. This is one of the most common charges in California that are considered criminal, and individuals charged of this crime should contact a criminal defense attorney right away. Defenses Used for California Penal Code 243(e): Attorneys use a number of defenses in order to lesson the charges or have the domestic violence charges thrown out. A...

We hear about it and see it on the news routinely: "Man kills woman."..."It was an accident." An accident is a defense, not a description of domestic violence. Domestic abuse is never an accident. Now of course one may say, "I didn't know she was going to die when I beat her to death." But that's not the point. The minute you violate another person verbally, emotionally or physically, domestic violence is in play and so is the crime being committed. Abusers and their defense attorneys take the "accident" defense, because it is all they have when the perpetrator, victim and incident are known. The accident card is the only thing left for them to stand behind in their effort to lessen the consequences...

If you're in an abusive relationship - whether you're the male or the female - there are ways to protect yourself. You should seek a domestic violence lawyer who can help you defend yourself against potential criminal accusations by your spouse or boyfriend or girlfriend relating to a simple assault, an assault on a female, or other domestic violence related crimes. In addition, a criminal lawyer will be able to advise you on the best path to protect yourself in the future. For instance, it might make sense for you to apply for a 50B. A 50B is a type of Domestic Violence Protective Order in North Carolina. Among other things, a 50B will protect you against harassment, threats, or assaults, and may...

A Domestic Violence crime is specially handled in Wake County, North Carolina. A domestic violence crime may involve a charge of simple assault, assault on a female (AOF), communicating threats, or interfering with emergency communications. It may also include damage to personal property, and even more serious charges. If you are charged with a domestic violence crime in Raleigh, you certainly need to talk to a competent and understanding domestic violence lawyer Raleigh. Raleigh Criminal Lawyer Damon Chetson can help you defend against these charges and avoid the worst consequences. That's because these cases are generally handled in a special courtroom, where special practices are used. In...

There are many types of harassment in the workplace; one of the main types being verbal abuse. What constitutes something as verbal abuse? The fact is, any language that impedes maintaining a professional rapport in the office or within individuals due to intimidation, belittling, hurtful language, or mental and emotional isolation. The Abuser The most common type of workplace abuse derives from an abuser who has a "higher standing" or is a "veteran" within the company or institution. The abuser usually creates their own universe where he or she must abuse or put someone down in order to feel better about him or herself. It is not uncommon for an abuser to have had a rough or abusive childhood. For...

Mel Gibson Rant: Recordings Display Verbal Abuse

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If we all thought the infamous "jew-hater" was in trouble before for opening his mouth, just listen to the latest Mel Gibson rant or recordings. They seem to confirm allegations by Oksana Grigorieva, Gibson's ex-girlfriend, that the star Lethal Weapon of Braveheart had been physically brutal with her in January of this year when they were still together as a couple. They split up last April but it was not until the end of June that her lawyers acquired a restraining order against Gibson. The restraining order stated that that Mel Gibson "punched her in the face 'more than once' on that date in January, causing a broken tooth, knocking out a veneer and causing a concussion,'" according to People...

When were you last unstoppable - except when it came to trying to hold on to an abusive relationship? What happened to your unstoppable nature? It was one of those things that a mentally abusive partner did his darnedest to program out of you. For obvious reasons. Maybe you've often felt like he succeeded. Working with mentally abused women, I've felt that they often have the most fragile hold on determination, focus and persistence. They have only a very fragile hold on their own identity. In the early stages of my healing, I often felt that I had only a very fragile hold on the qualities that I needed in spades, if I was to move forward. Subsequently, I have often felt when supporting abused women...

A portrait of deaths related to family violence in New Zealand Based on the Family Violence Death Review Committee (FVDRC) First Annual Report for 2008 - 2009, almost half of all murders every year, on average, are related to family violence. More women and children die from family related violence than men. On average, each year, 14 women, 6 men and 14 children die from family related violence. Between 2006 and 2008, on average, almost a third of all people were killed by a member of their own family. Data compiled by the New Zealand Police in 2009 reported 88 blameable or culpable deaths. Almost three quarters (65) were victims of murder compared with a quarter who were victims of manslaughter...

Habits are habitual, aren't they? This is so true for the "being battered" habit. It is as though you come to expect punishment not only when in his/her presence, but also long after your abusive partner is out of the room, out of your house or even out of your life. If you are a survivor of domestic abuse and you long to shed yourself of the habits of being battered, you will want to practice these secrets to getting out and staying out of the doghouse. 1) When you catch yourself assuming that you are wrong or in line for impending punishment, stop and inquire, "Is that true?" Chances are, there is a thought that you also have which is as true or even more true for you. 2) Recognize, acknowledge...

You may remember this hit single "War" from the 1970s with a little twist on the words. Trust! Huh! Yeah! What is it good for? Absolutely nothin'! Say it again This song came to mind when I thought about the word trust. Soon after coming out of an abusive marriage, I would be asked if I was dating again. I looked at that person as if they asked me to swallow a cup of live bees. How could I date again when I can't trust my own judgment? Have you been there in your own life? During my recovery from verbal abuse, I was on a mission to rebuild my self esteem. Every book I picked up talked about this foreign concept called trust. And how trust is so important to the healing process. ;You just have to...

Toxic Words - Verbal Abuse Can Hurt You

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"Sticks and stones may hurt my bones, but words will never hurt me" Remember that old saying that we used as kids to try to cope with name-calling? It probably wasn't very successful then, and in fact, just isn't true. We now know that words can hurt. We always knew that words could hurt our feelings, but it turns out that words can have a profound effect on our bodies as well. Every cell in our body is eavesdropping on everything we say and everything that is said to us. Studies by Dr. Masaru Emoto demonstrated that water molecules respond to the words that are used about them, changing their structure to respond to the message. If the message is positive and loving, the water molecule changes...

Verbal abuse is inflicting emotional or psychological pains on your family members through the use of words. It may involve partners using abusive words against each other or parents using abusive words against their children. Whatever the situation may be, this evil is played out in so many families everyday and all over the world. Words are powerful and could destroy a person's self esteem over time. In fact the Bible in Proverbs 18:21 says: Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Words have power to build or destroy because human beings were made in the image and likeness of God. God created the world by His spoken word as recorded in the book of...

No matter what anyone says, verbal abuse is still abuse. Sadly, people are all too ready to dismiss it as if it were nothing; hence, there aren't enough discussions on how to stop verbal abuse. But when somebody calls you names or screams at you for no apparent reason, that's abuse. When a person bullies you at work or taunts you incessantly, that's abuse. Even though words won't hurt you physically, they do have an impact on you emotionally, which is why learning how to stop verbal abuse has become even more important. Read on to find out how. Tip # 1: Stop The Cycle. When someone abuses you (either verbally or physically), it usually becomes a cycle. What you need to do to stop verbal abuse is to...

Before you continue in a dating relationship, you need to ask the following two questions: "Is there already abuse going on in the relationship?" And, "how can I safely get out of it?" Considering that 33.33% of all teen girls are abused by their dates there's a 1 in 3 chance that abuse is going on right now. The truth is that the longer you stay in the abusive relationship, the more intense the violence will become. It does not get better over time. And, no one is justified in attacking you just because he or she is angry. No one, including you deserves to be abused. Nope, you don't. That is not your purpose in life. Also, you must consider that the most dangerous time is when some is trying to...

Emotional abuse recovery steps don't just happen overnight. The quality of your recovery is much more important than the years or few months it would take for you to fully heal. Every process is unique for every individual. You must not expect to see the same results as quickly as another person have acquired them. It can be as simple as burying your pains in the past and moving forward but there is an effective way of doing that. Emotional abuse can't easily be detected by another person unlike physical abuse which shows in bruises and scars but the trauma it brings are all the same. It is much like being robbed of your own identity and self worth while feeling helpless and unable to fight back...

Emotional abuse recovery is never too late for anyone. You can still turn your life around and walk away from any abusive relationship and heal at the same time. This is a process that doesn't just take overnight but with continued effort, commitment and support, you're well on your way to the path of recovery. You have to first understand that you can't simply put the blame on your partner and expect everything else to be all right. You have to take full responsibility for what has happened and start to rebuild your life one step at a time. Emotional abuse undermines your worth as a human being. It prevents you from growing as a person and never being able to put your talents and capabilities to...

The end of any relationship is rarely a happy one, and when it comes to ending a marriage that has been scarred with infidelity or abuse, the ensuing separation and divorce can be as bitter as the marriage itself. Couples get embroiled in vicious battles over their children and material assets, and all involved have to go through severe emotional turmoil. There is no denying the emotional pain that comes from having to let go of a relationship that was meant to last for a lifetime. Sometimes the effects of separation can haunt one or both the partners for a lifetime. At times one of the battling parties may consciously or unconsciously launch an emotional warfare, by telling the partner that he or...

Want to know how to overcome emotional abuse? Surviving emotional abuse is a process that just doesn't happen overnight although going through years of abuse doesn't equate with healing for the same period of time. You can always take back your life and start anew. Emotional abuse has a debilitating effect on the victim. Your whole being is compromised and affected. It aims to damage your soul and the very core of your individuality. Feelings of being unloved and unwanted will always envelop you until you break free from them. It may not leave scars but the pain it causes may even be worse than physical harm. The good news is that you can overcome emotional abuse and regain the confidence, self...

YURI KRAYTSBERG vs. YEVGENYA KRAYTSBERG Middlesex Division of the Probate and Family Court Department and Newton Division of the District Court Department. SUPREME JUDICIAL COURT OF MASSACHUSETTS July 6, 1998 Facts: On December 3, 1997, the petitioner filed a petition under G. L. c. 211, § 3, asking a single justice of this court to vacate two restraining orders. A judge in the Middlesex Probate and Family Court issued the first restraining order on February 16, 1993, under G. L. c. 208, § 34B, pursuant to the court's jurisdiction over the divorce between the petitioner and his wife, one of the respondents in this case. A District Court judge issued the second order against the petitioner on...

Christ's Response to Verbal Abuse and Slander

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The Gospel of John is a treatise on Christology. John emphasizes several essential doctrines of the Christian faith less obvious in the Synoptic Gospels: the deity of Christ; the preexistence, the Word made incarnate. One additional feature prominent in John's Gospel that stands out to me is the patience and perseverance of our Lord under unrelenting verbal attacks and criticism. While the reader needs to be extremely careful not to read his/her own agenda into any biblical text, one can easily read between the lines into the character of Christ and thus what He expects from His followers. Each time I read John, from the challenge to His authority issued in chapter 3 to the mocking of the Roman...

No matter what anyone says, verbal abuse is still abuse. Sadly, people are all too ready to dismiss it as if it were nothing; hence, there aren't enough discussions on how to stop verbal abuse. But when somebody calls you names or screams at you for no apparent reason, that's abuse. When a person bullies you at work or taunts you incessantly, that's abuse. Even though words won't hurt you physically, they do have an impact on you emotionally, which is why learning how to stop verbal abuse has become even more important. Read on to find out how. Tip # 1: Stop The Cycle. When someone abuses you (either verbally or physically), it usually becomes a cycle. What you need to do to stop verbal abuse is to...

So often in a new relationship we learn the dynamic of the new relationship. This includes how you react together as a couple, with each other, and in group settlings. Backgrounds are very different and as our techniques in dealing and interacting with other people. One thing you need to be on the look out for is verbal abuse. Verbal abuse always takes place before physical abuse does. Knowing what the signs of verbal abuse are as well as being able to stop that treatment early on is key in a relationship. Verbal abuse happens in many different ways. Examples of verbal abuse are putting someone down, such as calling them fat, or ugly. Other examples are if your significant other willfully ignores...

Now the Indian women got the right. To protect themselves from the cruelties faced by them inside the four walls of their house. The domestic violence act is to protect them from the cruelties they have suffered from the relatives regarding their, beauty, gender, education..etc. Even if there is a criticism existing that the law is changing the traditional concept of family in Indian culture, it can be said as a milestone in the legal history of Indian legal system. We know that the women are ill treated not by the society itself. They are subjected to a lot of cruelties from within the walls of their house. The ill treaters will be their relatives. Especially the husbands are ill treating the wives...

More and more people are reporting incidents of domestic violence to the police. If you are a victim of domestic violence you will be aware of just how frightening it can be. The question that many people ask is what are the causes of this violence, is the person just a lunatic or are there other reasons behind it. According to the latest reports alcohol has a large part to play in leading to cases of domestic violence. In the example of a husband hitting his wife when he is drunk, this is typically what can happen. For the sake of making this article easier to read, I shall call the husband John and his wife Linda. John is a really nice guy when sober. Linda is very much in love with him and hopes...

Family Violence

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Society sometimes may be really cruel and create monsters that act like animals even within a family. This article is for those who are familiar with the expression “family violence”. If you are a considerate citizen, you’ll take this into account and try to make the situation a little better. “Family for and individual is a multiplied self”, says the saying, one can’t but agree with. A family is the first social group where you grow up and learn the simplest things. So the influence of it makes the first step in formation of a personality. It is hard to see, how negative can this influence be. In the twenty first century it seems as if there are no problems inside the social group...

In the Matter of David Wissink, Respondent, v. Jane Wissink, Appellant. SUPREME COURT OF NEW YORK, APPELLATE DIVISION  February 22, 2002 The parties lived together in Franklin County from 1997 until September 26, 2001, when the mother fled the marital residence.  After several days in a domestic violence shelter in Franklin County, she came to Albany to live with her sister.  The mother then filed custody and family offense petitions in Albany County.  The father's request for a venue change is based on the standard reasons of witness convenience and substantial contacts with Franklin County.  The mother alleges that she fled her home with virtually none of her or her children's belongings...

Children and Domestic Violence: The Effects

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Domestic violence can have many effects on children. These effects include short term and long term problems. Childrenoften remember domestic violence their entire lives. The short term effects on children who have experienced domestic violence can vary depending on the age of the child,gender, family role and personality. Children may blame themselves for the violence or have trouble sleeping. They maybegin wetting the bed or having nightmares. Children who witness or are a part of domestic violence may regress to an earlier stage of development. They may show signs of fearfulness or anxiety and begin destructive or aggressive behavior. Other short term effects of domestic violence may...

Healing from emotional abuse is something that may not heal by itself over time. Most of the time you really can't get over a relationship no matter what you're doing. You can still find yourself turning back either physically or emotionally trying hard to find a resolution or a closure. These are just some of the major symptoms that you've been involved with an individual who has narcissistic personality disorder. It starts out with your feelings inside... that something in your life is just not right. Narcissism impacts your soul at a very high degree. It is a kind of "soul rape" that will leave you the feeling of being violated in many different ways. Recovering from a narcissistic relationship...

Lets say you meet someone your interested in. Then you run a background check on them and find out they have a criminal history of violence, would you still date them? Sure there's a difference between a bar room brawl and someone having a serious history of violence or domestic violence. National statistics for 2008 show that between 600,000 and 6 million women, and between 100,000 and 6 million men are victims of domestic violence each year. Yes even men can become victims of a violent spouse. I believe people have problems and will always have problems. But once those issues become violent towards someone they supposedly care about, then that information should become available to the public so...

If you find yourself in a relationship with an abusive partner, you may wonder how you could have possibly gotten there. Most of the time, abusive partners gradually retain more and more control in the relationship and become more emotionally and physically abusive. Because of this progression, you are trained to tolerate more and more disrespect, until you are not sure how to handle domestic violence in the relationship. Regaining Control One of the first steps that you have to take is to educate yourself on what is appropriate behavior from your partner. Often, you become so accustomed to accepting disrespectful behavior and the manipulation involved that it makes you feel like you deserve it...

Domestic violence affects thousands of women and young teenage girls each year. Why do so many women live with it, instead of moving out and getting help? 1. Financial reasons (They believe that they cannot make it on their own). 2. Many stay because of their children 3. Fear 4. They confuse it with love 5. Many are brainwashed into believing that no one else will want them When violence occurs, in many cases people will say, "What did she do to make him so angry?" Whatever the situation maybe, no one deserves to be beaten, kicked, or choked. But it is not just physical; it can be mental as well. We should think before we act, because violence can show up in the best of us. Just look at the incident...

Domestic Violence- the Psychology of the Abuser

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Domestic violence is one of the most serious issues that affects the lives of millions of people in the world. Though women are the most commonly abused group, men are also abused by their partners. But women form the majority of those being abused. What kind of a person abuses his/her partner? Why the abuse? What does the abuser get out of this? These are some of the questions that can be discussed to profile people who may indulge in abuse. Let us discuss. An abuser is a person of low self-esteem. The abuser has no respect for a human being and no compassion for a human life. I do not know if any relationship is found between those who abuse humans and those who abuse animals, but this can be...

It wasn't too long ago that many of us were reeling from the news of domestic violence involving singers Chris Brown and Rihanna. According to the Domestic Violence Resource Center, more than one million people, on average, are victims of domestic violence each year. The vast majority of victims are women, and if there is any hope to lessen domestic violence, it's important that we start educating our sons about it at an early age. This includes: 1. What Constitutes Domestic Violence. While many people think of domestic violence as a man consistently abusing a woman, we must help them understand that domestic violence is any violence which takes place amongst family members or those in an intimate...

Everyone knows about the devastating emotional effects domestic violence has upon children. Violence at home also presents an issue regarding the custody and care of the children of these couples. Approximately 1.3 million women are physically assaulted by a domestic partner annually in the United States. In 2000, 1,247 women were killed by a partner. In recent years, a partner killed approximately 33% of female murder victims. These statistics are quoted from the study reports of two surveys conducted by the National Institute of Justice, of the US Department of Justice. Where do the kids of these families go after their parents have been victimized or put in jail? Child custody and visitation...

Abusive Relationship Help - How to Stop Relationship Abuse

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If you are having some problems in your relationship where your partner is abusing you, whether physically or emotionally, you may need some abusive relationship help. Nobody likes being abused and nobody should be abused by anyone for any reason. An abusive relationship should not be continued and you would need to find ways to get out of that situation. You would need to look after your well-being and stop the pain. In a situation where you are suffering, you need to look out for your own interests first. However, you still need to decide if getting out of the relationship is the right choice for you. Some couples have gotten together for a reason and if they were to separate, things may worsen...

How Much Damage Can Verbal Abuse Do to Your Self-Esteem?

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Verbal abuse is not always the obvious loud and shouting kind, with clearly meant open mean and cruel insults being made. Verbal abuse can also be more subtle. The type that takes its tool over a period of time that gradually builds up the pressure until your self esteem crumbles. You may hear shouting from your neighbours, things like "every day for two years you have just keep going on about the same thing". This doesn't create visible bruises or black eyes, it eats away at your core until your lose your identity and control of your life. This creates a further problem that as no one can see it, you become to embarrassed or ashamed to say anything. You keep it to yourself, bottling it all up. Or...

People are just different in many aspects. If there are the silent types, there are also the loud ones who can be very verbal about what they think and feel. But as they say, opposites attract the reason why some individuals with an introvert personality end up marrying their exact opposite who are more inclined to talking. It is alright to be express one's thoughts and feelings to your spouse. Communication is always essential in establishing a good relationship and maintaining it for the long term more so in marriage. Marriage and family therapists often point out the importance of discussing issues together to avoid conflicts in the relationship. But marriage is not made in heaven and...

As a general rule, verbal abuse in the workplace is done by a supervisor or higher up in the company and stems from being a disciplinarian that has then escalated to consistent verbal abuse of the people under his authority. This is not to say that the authority figure will always be the one that uses workplace verbal abuse to control their target by denigrating and belittling them. Co-workers can also be responsible for verbally abusing their counterparts and do it as a controlling measure to make the target feel lower in stature than the other workers in their departments. The apparent reasoning for this workplace verbal abuse is generally all over the map, from the controlling boss wanting to...

If he or she knows most, if not all, of your strengths and weakness, and use them against you, you may face yourself always losing in any quarrel. It's like they have a "You" controller on their hands, and they know which buttons to push to elicit what actions from you. The more "evil" ones purposely embarrass you in public or when you are in company of your friends, giving you no respect. Seriously, being a victim and staying as one will not solve anything. Things does not get better when you keep quiet. If this sound like you, its high time to voice out. Analyze everything that is said. Are those true or false? Are the facts being exaggerated? Are some things being left unsaid? Know whether you...

The spectacle last week of Wall Street bankers being summoned to Washington, DC to be publicly humiliated in front of members of Congress and the media after running their companies into the ground and squandering hundreds of billions of taxpayer dollars begs one question. How do I get one of those jobs? I think I could handle the cost of being paid hundreds of millions of dollars in salaries, bonuses, and stock options with a little public humiliation every few months. Up until now, it was only the most destitute and desperate individuals who felt forced to carry signs by the side of the road indicating "will work for food" or similar depressing slogans. But in the era of the housing collapse and...

Domestic Violence - Christians Beware

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Any use of physical force with the intention of hurting or killing someone is a violent act. When this method of brutality is applied on the home front the action gets called family violence. Christian parents and general home settings should beware of this phenomenon. What causes domestic or family violence? Alcohol and other forms of drugs don't, in themselves, cause family violence. But it must be understood that they weigh heavily on the scale of common causes of family violence. When users are under the influence of drugs they tend to lose their senses, they become high as the slang goes, so much that their behavior slip out of their control. Most habits of human beings don't come by accident...

Emotional and Verbal Abuse: Making the Choice to Leave

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Abuse takes away freedom. Our souls thrive in freedom. They die in abuse. When we allow another person to enter our sacred space and poison us, we slowly die. If you are a victim of abuse reading this, you deserve more than tolerating life. I know the shame you feel. People have asked me why did I stay? I tell them that I was committed to the entity of marriage. I find it interesting how we commit to a label and lose commitment to ourselves. We cling to the images we see on soap operas and movies. The happily everafter. We enter marriage on a fairytale. One day we wake up, and wonder what happened to our mind. Your mind was always there. Your commitment was to appearance rather than your soul...

Far too often, we hear individuals in abusive relationships seeking to change their partners in order to change their relationship. While it is true that a change in either person will change the overall dynamic of the relationship, changing one's partner is only an option if it is partner self-initiated. Rather than holding onto something that is essentially out of one's control-actually not one's business-look to changing what is within your control and is indeed your business: yourself. In working with thousands of patients over the years, the one thing I consistently see is that when people grow to honor and respect their physical, emotional, mental and spiritual space they have no tolerance...

People seeking to break the cycle of abuse know the bullies, babies and lack of boundaries in abusive relationships. What they long to understand is, "Who are these people, and where do they end and I begin?" Who are the Bullies? The bullies are those that want what they want when they want it. And most important to them is that you are expected to deliver. You heard me. They want it from you! So, on the outside looking in, one may initially see them as empowered in their aggression. But the fact is that these aggressions don't emerge out of a place of invincibility. To the contrary, they emerge from vulnerability. Who are the Babies? They come from a place of longing what they have vested in you...

Having recently testified as the door hardware, lock and security expert witness on a very serious elder abuse case involving the rape of a 93 year old resident of a retirement home, I am intimately aware of the potential for physical violence and neglect aimed directly at senior citizens. The following is about a completely different kind of abuse involving our senior population. During the past couple of years, with the downturn in the economy, and the significant slowdown in the construction trades, I have been contacted to evaluate and consult on several significant cases and many issues relating to contractor misconduct and construction fraud. It has become apparent that dishonest practices...

Every day, thousands of elderly Americans are physically abused by their nursing home attendants. Many of these patients suffer serious injuries while others eventually pass away from their injuries. Abuse in any form is unacceptable, especially when it occurs in a retirement home. Physical abuse includes any type of physical contact one individual inflicts upon another with the intent to injure or harm that individual. In nursing homes, this occurs with a surprisingly high frequency. An estimated 30% of all homes in the United States are cited for abuse each year. There are a number of reasons why this occurs. In most cases, it involves employee frustration. Though handling patients that may be...